I hear the same comment all the time. “You have the best job ever” or “You must really love what you do.” Yes, both are true. Not that I am tooting my own horn, but I put a lot of effort into making my job fun and staying educated for you. With that said, I think it is important that you know what we go through every day because a lot goes on behind the scenes. So this post should give you some insight into my life and other wedding vendors.
Day to Day Life
It may seem glamorous, but no we do not sip champagne by the pool, play on facebook and attend fancy events every day. Though that would be nice. Yes, we frequent facebook, Twitter and every other social network out there. Yes, we do sit and write blogs on the back porch on nice sunny days. Yes, we get to create gorgeous events and work with some really wonderful people.
But along with all of that, there are emails and phone calls from current and potential brides every day. To me, this comes before all of that other stuff. Most of the time we do not have the luxury of going right back to what we were doing before the phone rang. Our minds have moved on from that task and are already on to the next thing.
We also have to think about marketing and strategies for how to promote our business and put those into motion. These things all take time and effort. After all, it is most likely how you found us. Even if we are completely booked for the upcoming year, we have to keep going. If we stop, so will our business.
So in a nutshell, that is what we do aside from partaking in your wedding planning and activities. It isn’t always pretty, fluffy stuff. But someone’s got to do it.
This is the first meeting you have with a vendor. It could be a visit to a reception venue, a meeting to check out a photogs portfolio or a tasting with a bakery. There are a number of ways this initial consultation can take place, including over the phone. When vendors meet with you, they really want to get to know a little bit about you. Be ready to talk a little bit about yourselves and what you vision is for your day.
I am sure you have an idea of what type of vendors are going to be right for you. So it should be no surprise that every vendor has what they call the “ideal client.” They want to know if you are that ideal client or if you will mesh well. You may even want to ask them about their perfect client. It could be a good way to make a quick and easy decision on whether this person is right for you.
By the end of this consultation, you should be able to make a judgement about whether you would want to work with this person leading up to and on your wedding day. If they do not give you a quote or proposal that day, ask them how long it might take them to get it to you. For some vendors, there is a creative process that goes into each proposal. It may not happen overnight, but it also shouldn’t take weeks.
After the initial consultations, you should be able to narrow down your choices, select all of your vendors and sign contracts with them. Some may also require a deposit in order to set your date with them. This is when all the fun starts.
It’s all in the details. You get to talk about your vision and start working to bring that to reality. But remember, these things can take time. I know you want to think you are the only bride in the world, but you aren’t. Vendors get pulled in every direction (see the “Day to Day” section above) and they really just want to provide you with the best product possible. It can take time to do the research for portrait locations or design a stunning centerpiece idea.
I am not saying you should let the vendors walk all over you and put you off until the last minute. I am simply saying to be patient. You will get the very best of what they offer when they have time to create it. Work with them to set appropriate expectations and I can guarantee you will both be happy with the results.
Creating your day
This is where the magic happens. While you are being pampered and getting ready for your big day, we are running around to make sure every last detail is perfect. This is the part that we really love! A lot of people make your day happen – coordinators, florists, bakers, DJs, musicians, cooks, servers, photographers, dishwashers, bartenders, valet drivers, videographers, etc, etc, etc.
I think the most common misconception out there is that these people start working when the reception starts. Not true. We work for hours before your event and sometimes even days to make sure that your event is flawless. Not to mention the hours spent during the planning process. The end result and happiness on the happy couple’s face is what really make our jobs worth it. If we didn’t love it, we’d be crazy to do it.
So I know this was a long one, but I hope it was at least a little bit educational and helps you see what we really do for a living. I absolutely love what I do. Sometimes, I am tired. Sometimes, I wish the phone would stop ringing. Sometimes, I wish the phone would ring more. But ultimately, I love making people happy. And I get to do that every single day.