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Nicki Ann's Wedding Blog

In her blog, Nikki Ann shares with you her insights, thoughts, and feelings on all things women, wedding, marriage, and event-related.


The Three V’s

December 19th, 2013

I hear the same lines all the time. You only get one wedding. It’s one day for the rest of your life. Your wedding day should be perfect. But how do you make that happen? How to you ensure that your wedding day will be perfect and one that your guests will talk about for years to come?

If you’ve never planned a wedding before, then you are probably feeling pretty lost. Most brides plan their big day for just around one year. There are a ton of things to think about whether you plan for 5 years or 2 months. It really boils down to the three V’s – vision, vendors and venue.

Vision

How do you picture your wedding day? You may or may not know what you want your wedding to look like before the planning process begins. Some brides wait to see what strikes them as they are planning. Others have planned this day for years. However, when I say vision, I don’t necessarily mean the pretty stuff. It is also very important to think about the kind of music will be played, the food that will be served, the wedding party’s apparel, and where everything will take place. Sure, Pinterest is a great tool in figuring out how you want the wedding to look, but it won’t help you when planning your music or food.

Vendors

Photographers, DJs, wedding coordinators, florists, bakeries, videographers, and the list goes on. Now that you have the perfect wedding in mind, these are the people you should trust to make this happen. Key word here is TRUST. Weddings are expensive. You only have one day to get it right. Chances are you won’t have a re-do. If you hire someone who doesn’t quite fit into your vision or cannot give you what you want, then you are just setting your day up for failure. Most wedding vendors do this every single weekend. If you hire someone, trust them to do their job. You shouldn’t have to micromanage their every move. If you feel like you need to do that, then you’ve hired the wrong person.

And while I am on the topic, please, please, please remember that you get what you pay for. I understand that you may be trying to pinch pennies where possible, but if you skimp too much you will be very disappointed. It may be worth it to splurge on your photographer whose photos you swoon over. I’ve seen some really bad vendors. It is never surprising when I find out how much was paid for their services. It goes hand in hand. Generally speaking, cost is associated with not only value but level of service. Make sure you know what you are getting when booking your vendors.

Venue 

You may be thinking that I am biased by mentioning venue, but the venue will play a huge role in your planning process. You will want to look at everything they have to offer. Does the overall look of the venue fit in with your vision? If you are hoping to have a rustic/vintage wedding, a venue with a contemporary vibe will keep you from achieving that. If you are picturing a more intimate feel, a huge ballroom isn’t going to make you feel very close to your guests. If you know you want hot pink as your color, a venue with bright red carpeting will clash. Check out a few venues. Pittsburgh brides are very lucky because there is a nice range of options. If what one place has to offer doesn’t fit into your vision, then choose a different place. After all, this is YOUR day. Your one and only wedding. The venue is going to house probably the largest and most expensive party you will ever throw. Make sure you have no regrets.

While there is much more that goes into planning a wedding. There are lots of final decisions to make, but if you start with this basic outline you will have a very good start to the planning process. After that, let your vendors guide you. Our goals and jobs are to make your day perfect. Let us do that for you!

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Friday Finds 4.12.13

April 12th, 2013

Well I’ve been a busy little bee today! It seems like today flew by. People calling in to book their weddings and gearing up for the wedding next weekend had me almost forget today was actually Friday! But have no fear, I still have a good find for you.

I have a lot of brides ask if they should have their wedding makeup done professionally or if they should just do it themselves to ensure that they actually “look like themselves.” My advice is ALWAYS to have it done professionally. The key is to do a trial run before to make sure that you feel and look like yourself. You can always make changes to your look then and s/he will take notes to make the day of a bit easier on both of you. The other thing I always recommend is having your foundation airbrushed and go with a little more makeup than your every day look. After all, this is not just some ordinary average day, is it? Besides, the camera loves a little more makeup and we know you will be in front of one almost every second of your big day.

I came across these “20 Great Makeup Tips” on The Knot and figured this would be a good share for the day.

Here’s a shot of me getting my makeup done on my wedding day by Julie Markisotto of Pittsburgh Makeup. She is AMAZING!! Gosh, it seems like forever ago…

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Photo by Erica Hilliard Photography

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I got 99 problems, but a bridesmaid ain’t one… Or is she?

February 28th, 2013

When women get engaged, they are excited – as they should be. That excitement can lead to some pretty rash decisions. Namely, choosing your bridesmaids. Now, many of us have thought about it long and hard and know who we really want to be standing beside us as we take a new last name. But sometimes, the excitement can get the best of us. I can speak from personal experience. One of my besties called me as we drove to dinner right after he popped the question. Of course, Joey told me to take the call so I could share the news. This is exactly how it went, in one long run-on sentence: “HIIIIIIII!!!!!!!! Guess what?! I’M ENGAGED!!!! Will you be a bridesmaid?” I never once regretted asking her, but I wish I could have contained myself a little longer so I could have made asking her a bit more special. Needless to say, she was shocked and didn’t believe that I was honestly asking her. I made six very good choices for my bridesmaids, so I was lucky.

However, lately, I have been hearing some bridesmaid horror stories. I’ve heard of drunk ladies who have asked someone to be a bridesmaid and then never brought it up again basically, pretending that it never happened. I’ve heard of women getting upset because someone else was chosen as the Maid of Honor – so what if the person was chosen was the bride’s only sister. I’ve heard of bridesmaids backing out of the wedding with only a month to go. I’ve heard of bridesmaids who have made the whole process about them rather than focusing on the bride. I’ve even heard of bridesmaids who got into a screaming match in the middle of the reception and had to be escorted out of the venue.

With all of that in mind, I think it is important to discuss this topic a little bit before I have to hear too many more of these stories. This is not a decision that should be taken lightly. You have to consider everything that goes into being a bridesmaid and encourage them to do the same before making a decision. If you’ve been a bridesmaid before, you know exactly what I mean – showers, bachelorette parties, dress/gown shopping, gifts, DIY projects… and the list goes on and on! So here are a few steps that can help when thinking about who should be such a huge part of your big day.

You don’t have to ask someone just because they asked you.

I hear so many brides say, “Well, I was a bridesmaid in her wedding, so I kind of have to ask her.” NO YOU DON’T. You should not feel obligated to ask anyone to be a part of your wedding. And as I was once told, “if you’re my [wo]man, then you’ll understand.” It is crazy to me that women get so offended when they aren’t asked to be in someone’s wedding. When this is all over, just remember what it was like to have to narrow down your list of friends to those very few. I bet you will never be upset someone didn’t ask you to be a bridesmaid again.

You don’t have to ask someone just because they are related to you (or your intended).

Honestly, who cares if she’s your cousin, sister or even fiance’s sister? If you are closer with your friends than this person, then she is not someone who should be part of the bridal party. Remember, you can’t choose your family, but you can choose your friends. And just because you are related, it doesn’t mean that you are friends. I know. I know. It sounds harsh, but I’m just being realistic. Do you want someone who barely knows you planning your shower? You might end up with the unicorns and rainbows you loved when you were in 2nd grade because that’s all she remembers about you. Think about it.

You don’t have to choose someone just to make the bridal party even.

You fiancé has 5 potential groomsman on his list, but you only have 3. So what? Nowadays, weddings are moving away from the traditional anyway. Who says you have to have an even number on either side? If you are thinking that you don’t want your pictures to be uneven, then you have nothing to fear. Most photographers can work with any number of people. If they are good at their job, they can figure out how to position your bridal party so that it doesn’t look lopsided. After all, they have done this before and are probably pretty artistic. If you are worried about that, then you have chosen the wrong photographer. We’ll save that topic for another blog post…

You don’t have to choose someone if they are unreliable.

See above comment about bridesmaid backing out a month before the wedding. I’ve even been witness to bridesmaids who were no shows for the shower or bachelorette party with no explanation or apology. Oh and did I forget to mention that she also didn’t pitch in any moo-la for either because she said she’d bring it with her and then proceeded to insist that because she wasn’t there, she shouldn’t have to help pay? Some people are just plain inconsiderate. Do you want that to happen? You have enough on your plate. Worrying about a bridesmaid shouldn’t be one of those things.

Sometimes it is hard to remember that this day is about you and your soon-to-be spouse with all of the suggestions and requests from other people. Ultimately, you need to stop and remind yourself that it IS about you. Your bridesmaids are supposed to be there to support and help you. It is up to you to choose them wisely. Or you can listen to me saying “I told you so.” The choice is yours.

What horror stories have you heard or experienced? I’d love to hear some and how you dealt with it. And just because I love them so much, here is a shot of my beautiful and amazing bridesmaids. I lucked out with this group!

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Wediquette Wednesday: Plus one?

August 22nd, 2012

I cannot claim to have come up with the term “Wediquette.” I can only say that whoever did is a genius. A whole separate set of rules apply when planning a wedding. That is probably why I get asked so many of the same questions over and over. And unless you have planned a wedding before, it is unlikely you are going to know the answers to all of these questions, so I never fault people for asking. I just figured since they are common questions, maybe more people would want to know the answers. Enter “Wediquette Wednesday.” Again, not a novel title. But since this will be a recurring series on my blog, I think it deserves a fun moniker. While this may not be a weekly series like my Tuesday Shoesday or Friday Finds, I plan to shed some light on the most common questions asked by brides.

Q. We are on a tight budget and would like to cut back our quest list. Do we need to allow everyone a “plus one?”

A. Short answer is no, but let’s discuss this a bit more. It’s not quite as simple as a yes or no. Let’s talk about a few different scenarios.

1. A friend/family member is engaged or married. You should invite their spouse. Imagine how you would feel if someone didn’t invite you to which a wedding your soon to be husband was invited. You’d be a little upset. They are this guest’s family and therefore a friend/family member by default – even if you have never met them or don’t like them.

2. A friend/family member is single. You do not need to include a plus one UNLESS they do not know anyone else at the wedding (see number 3). You don’t need random people at your wedding just for the sake of your friend or family having a date.

3. A friend won’t know anyone else at the reception. I have been invited to weddings before when I knew only the groom and I would have never gone to the wedding if I hadn’t been able to take a date. Now if you don’t really want the guest to come either and are just inviting them because you feel obligated, then not allowing a plus one would be a good way to cut the list even more. However, if this is the case, you should probably just skip the invitation all together.

4. The friend/family member is under 18. Even if they are dating someone “seriously,” just how serious can it be? They are in high school. There aren’t many cases of high school sweethearts making it past the first year in college. They most certainly shouldn’t bring their boyfriend of the week to your wedding either.

5. A friend/family member is in a committed relationship. This is the one where it gets tricky. You can’t really make a cut-off  (i.e. dating for longer than 6 months) because I have met a lot of couples who are committed or are even engaged after 3 months. You should use your best judgement on this one.

And while I am on the topic, please, please, please do not allow anyone’s girlfriend or date to be a part of your family portraits. Unless they are married or engaged, they should not be in them. Even when they are married or engaged to be a part of your family, you should get a second shot of you and your immediate family without them. You don’t want any randos in your photos who you won’t be able to identify 5 years down the road.

Do you have any input on this topic? If so, please comment below! I’d love to hear from you!

 

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Friday Finds 8.10.12

August 10th, 2012

Have you downloaded the Wedding 911 app from The Knot yet? If you haven’t, you should. Now. Let’s face it, even while sitting in front of a computer, we tend to turn to our phones for the answers. This app is the best place to answer all your wedding etiquette questions while on the go. Of course, you can always ask your married friends or wedding planner, but I doubt they will appreciate 3am phone calls when you are laying awake contemplating invites or other details. This way, you can just turn to your trusty iPhone and never be in the dark again. Sorry to all you Droid users, you’ll have to get a new phone or wait on this one. Once you go Mac, you’ll never go back…

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How to Avoid Becoming a Bridezilla

July 16th, 2012

I literally hate the show Bridezillas. I see it on the TV guide and it makes me cringe. It’s nothing but a bunch of low-class brides looking for their 15 minutes of fame. Who knows if it is even real or if they are acting like that simply to be on TV. The fact of the matter is that 75% of brides are not Bridezillas and may not even experience a fleeting moment of ‘Zilla-hood. I am sure I had a few moments when my hubby questioned whether I was about to explode but overall I was pretty good. I work with A LOT of brides. They all have moments when the stress gets to them and they snap on someone. But let’s be honest, we all have those moments in our daily lives, not just brides. That’s really what it all boils down to… stress. Brides act like that because this is a stressful time. A lot of time and effort goes into wedding planning.

Today, I am going to list the top 5 things to help avoid becoming a Bridezilla. Read. Take notes. Your friends, family and fiancé will thank you.

5. Delegate to your bridesmaids

Are you afraid to ask your bridesmaids to help you with something because you don’t want to bother them? Or you think they are too busy to help? Please ladies. That is what they are there for!! They WANT to help, otherwise they wouldn’t have agreed to be a part of your big day. I am not saying that they should have to devote 10 hours a week to your wedding, but small tasks to help you out when you are feeling overwhelmed is a acceptable. Need help putting together your invitations? Plan an afternoon when all or most of your bridesmaids can come. Serve some yummy cocktails or wine and some light snacks and I can guarantee that they will enjoy it and most importantly, spending time with you.

4. Spend time doing non-wedding related activities

If you live, breathe and eat wedding, what are you going to do when it is over? I have heard so many people say that they wish they could take a work sabbatical to plan their wedding. But let’s be honest, the majority of your wedding planning is going to get done while at work anyway. I’m just saying!!

Don’t spend every waking moment working on DIY projects or talking about your big day. If the only thing you talk about is your wedding, people aren’t going to want to be around you. Remember to ask other people what they are up to, if they have any good news or if they have any fun events coming up. You may be excited about your wedding, but it doesn’t consume everyone else’s lives like it does yours. It is the most important day of YOUR life, not theirs.

3. Stay open minded

I have met some brides who roll their eyes at the slightest hint of a suggestion from someone. Remember, they are only trying to help. You never know when someone might come up with a better idea than you! Don’t be so set on your plan that you miss a great opportunity. Being flexible and open-minded can be really helpful when planning. Say you find the perfect wedding venue and they don’t have your date available. Unless that date has some sort of significance to you and your fiancé, change it! I started out planning for a June wedding. I ended up getting married in July (today actually marks 1 year!!)  because the venue, church and a bridesmaid’s schedule conflicted. Each of these things were more important to me than some date that I randomly picked out of thin air, so I found the first available date where I could have all three. Problem solved.

2. Sit your mothers down early and talk about what YOU want

I know this sounds silly. But when there are two different families who may have conflicting ideas, planning a wedding can be a bit difficult. You and your fiancé are the ones who are going to be in the middle and getting the brunt of it. Cue the frustration…

First, you need to discuss things with your fiancé and make sure the two of you are on the same page. Once you’ve done that, you are ready to sit down with your moms and explain how you would like to see things play out on your wedding day. Review #3 and remember to stay open-minded. However, you will need to be stern and remind them that it is your wedding day, not theirs.

1. Choose good vendors and let them do their jobs

You book vendors because you fall in love with their style, right? So then why on Earth would you try to control the product? There is a difference between giving them your opinion and dictating what they do. Chat with them. Tell them what you love about their ideas and what you don’t. But ultimately, let them to their thing! You would never book someone who’s work you hated, so don’t assume that they can’t provide you with amazing centerpieces, photos, cakes, service without your direction.

The real goal here is to not let wedding planning rule your life. The marriage that follows the wedding is much more important, so focus on your husband-to-be and building a life with him. And don’t forget, if something goes wrong on your wedding day, chances are that you are the only one who is going to notice it. Everyone else will be too busy enjoying the day to realize it. So you should too.

 

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Dear Nicki Ann…

May 9th, 2012

I have been getting so many questions now that wedding season has crept up on us. Lots and lots of brides have been asking questions about planning – not just our Mansion brides, but friends of mine across the country. I figured if they are asking these questions, you might be as well. With that, I am introducing my “Dear Nicki Ann” posts. I’ll be sharing the questions and my answers for your reading pleasure. Trust that by the time I am done, you should not become the dreaded bridezilla. And yes, I totally stole the Dear Abby headline.

Dear Nicki Ann, 

I am almost to my wedding day and have yet to buy my bridesmaids gifts. Since we are paying for the wedding ourselves, I don’t have a ton of money to spend on each bridesmaid. A friend of mine spent $100 on each bridesmaid, but her parents paid for the wedding. I want to show them how much they mean to me with a nice gift, but with 6 of them in the wedding, it makes it hard to find something that is nice and doesn’t cost an arm and a leg. How much should I spend on each bridesmaid? What can I get them?

Sincerely, 

Caring, but broke bride

 

Dear Caring, but broke bride,

I totally feel you! I had 6 bridesmaids myself and we didn’t have a ton of money left after the wedding planning was done. I’ve received some gorgeous gifts as a bridesmaid. From one bride, I received a pair of Swarovski Crystal earrings. From another, a sapphire and diamond necklace. Both were stunning gifts and I can only imagine how much they cost. While I really wanted to give each of my bridesmaids something on that same level, I just couldn’t afford it.

As you probably know from reading my blog, I am all about practicality. I don’t see a point in doing something that does’t carry it’s value past your wedding day. You can most certainly find some really gorgeous gifts for less than $100. Since you are almost done with your wedding planning, I am guessing you’ve heard of Etsy. Take a moment to check out the handmade jewelry, like this adorable necklace or this funky bracelet. If that still isn’t in your budget, it looks like DIY may be the way to go. Check out Honestly WTF’s DIY site for projects like this Macrame Bracelet or other fun projects. Maybe you’ll just have to make one for yourself too! Wrap the gift in a pretty little bag or box and include a heartfelt letter. Tell your bridesmaids how much they mean to you. It is as simple as that.

Something small and meaningful is better than spending hundreds of dollars on a gift that they will never wear/use again or might possibly throw out a year down the road. It isn’t about who spends the most on gifts. It is about being there for each other on one of the biggest days of your lives. So how much should you spend? I don’t know. How ever much you can comfortably afford. That is not something I or anyone else can determine. All I can say is do not go into debt just to prove that you love your bridesmaids. Show them with something simple and tell them that you can’t imagine them not being there for you on your big day.

That should be thanks enough. If it isn’t, then I think we have another problem.

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Sunday Funday: Contest and Weekly Wrap-up!

April 15th, 2012

Another week, another contest. Or two. Or four. Whatever. Get to entering and win something good! You can thank me later :)

$250 Gift Certificate from Minted and Snippet & Ink

Free Appy Couple Download!

The Five-Year Engagement Save the Date Sweepstakes for a $1,000 Gift Card at Amazon.com

Bridal Hair Clip by Fancie Strands

 

In case you missed any of my posts this week, here is a weekly wrap-up sure to tickle your wedding planning fancy!

Inspiration: Kelly Green & White

Tuesday Shoesday, Edition 41

Bridal Boot Camp: 5 Simple Rules for Getting in Shape

Recipe of the Week: Turkey Muffins

Friday Finds 4.13.12

 

 

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Pre-Wedding “Bucket” List

April 4th, 2012

The last two years have been full of weddings for me and my husband. Last summer, we had three weddings in July, one of which was our own! It seemed to be an ongoing joke that the married guys would tell the soon-to-be married ones that their life was over and they would suffer a slow death by getting married. Of course this was all in jest, but it got me thinking. I mean, life as we know it is over as soon as we say “I do.”  Once you becoming someone’s wife/husband, you will never be the same. Not that it is a bad thing!

So as I contemplated this, I came up with a few things that every couple should do between the time they get engaged and the time they get married. A pre-wedding bucket list if you will.

1. Spend some QT with your parents… alone. 

My mom and I have always had a tradition where we take a long weekend and go on a trip together. It might be to the beach, to a winery, or even just to her house. But we’ve always made a point of spending some QT alone together. Though I know they can be a pain in the butt sometimes, your parents did bring you into this world and raised you to be the person you are today. They deserve to spend some time with their child. While your future spouse should be an important part of their life too, they can and do miss you often. So I suggest spending a long weekend with them and to do something fun. It may just be spending time watching movies and eating chocolate all weekend. Just do something with them that will remind them they are not losing you and that you still love them just as much as when you were little.

2. Have a conversation about finances.

No one really wants to do this, but it is a necessary evil. You and your future intended should sit down and discuss how you plan to handle your finances. Do you want to keep separate accounts and split the bills? Do you want to pour everything into a joint account? Or do you want to have a combo of both with a joint account for bills and separate spending accounts? Any of these options can work as long as you both agree. They say one of the main reasons why couples end in divorce is due to disagreements about money. Don’t add yourselves to this list!

3. Go on vacation.

Yeah right. Spend money on a vacation while you are trying to save for a wedding and honeymoon? I’m sure you are thinking I am crazy, but I think it is important to spend some relaxing time with your significant other before the wedding. I am not saying to go to a five star resort. I am just saying that you need to take a vacation from wedding planning and spend some time together. It can be to your family’s cabin in the woods or even a stay-cation at home. Plan on going mini-golfing or making s’mores by a fire pit. Just spend a few days not thinking about the wedding and reminding yourselves why you are getting married. In other words, just love each other!

4. Have a bachelor/bachelorette party.

Simple enough, right? Almost every bride and groom plans on doing this anyway, but there are a few out there who do not want to have one. All bachelorette parties do not have to include strippers, drinking and hangovers. If you are not a party girl, then stay in and spend some time with your closest girlfriends. If you are, then go to Vegas! You will only have one shot at having a bachelorette party, so do what works for you. Some couples do not want to have them because they are worried about strippers and inappropriate behavior. Honestly, not having a bachelor/bachelorette party is not going to stop the inappropriate behavior. If that is the case, I think you should reevaluate whether or not you should be getting married at all. Go out with your friends and celebrate your upcoming nuptials!!

5. If you are not living together already, discuss living arrangements.

So many couples are choosing to live together before getting married. There is nothing wrong with that. Joey and I bought a house together before we were even engaged. So I don’t judge. Discussing your future living arrangements is just as important as discussing your finances. Talk about your previous experiences living with roommates and what bothered you and what you liked about it. Do you both hate to do dishes? If so, then you may want to come up with a plan of attack so neither is blaming the other for leaving dirty dishes in the sink. You may want to make sure your future place has a dishwasher. It is all about working together. For anyone who has lived with someone else, you know it isn’t always easy. Many friendships can end because of living together. But if you discuss this in advance, then you should be able to make it work. It would be pretty embarrassing to list “unable to agree on who takes out the garbage” as the reasoning for a divorce.

There is a good start to your pre-wedding bucket list. So what would you add? I’d love to hear what you are planning before the big day!!

 

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Behind the scenes…

March 26th, 2012

I hear the same comment all the time. “You have the best job ever” or “You must really love what you do.” Yes, both are true. Not that I am tooting my own horn, but I put a lot of effort into making my job fun and staying educated for you. With that said, I think it is important that you know what we go through every day because a lot goes on behind the scenes. So this post should give you some insight into my life and other wedding vendors.

Day to Day Life

It may seem glamorous, but no we do not sip champagne by the pool, play on facebook and attend fancy events every day. Though that would be nice. Yes, we frequent facebook, Twitter and every other social network out there. Yes, we do sit and write blogs on the back porch on nice sunny days. Yes, we get to create gorgeous events and work with some really wonderful people.

But along with all of that, there are emails and phone calls from current and potential brides every day. To me, this comes before all of that other stuff. Most of the time we do not have the luxury of going right back to what we were doing before the phone rang. Our minds have moved on from that task and are already on to the next thing.

We also have to think about marketing and strategies for how to promote our business and put those into motion. These things all take time and effort. After all, it is most likely how you found us. Even if we are completely booked for the upcoming year, we have to keep going. If we stop, so will our business.

So in a nutshell, that is what we do aside from partaking in your wedding planning and activities. It isn’t always pretty, fluffy stuff. But someone’s got to do it.

Initial Consultations

This is the first meeting you have with a vendor. It could be a visit to a reception venue, a meeting to check out a photogs portfolio or a tasting with a bakery. There are a number of ways this initial consultation can take place, including over the phone. When vendors meet with you, they really want to get to know a little bit about you. Be ready to talk a little bit about yourselves and what you vision is for your day.

I am sure you have an idea of what type of vendors are going to be right for you. So it should be no surprise that every vendor has what they call the “ideal client.” They want to know if you are that ideal client or if you will mesh well. You may even want to ask them about their perfect client. It could be a good way to make a quick and easy decision on whether this person is right for you.

By the end of this consultation, you should be able to make a judgement about whether you would want to work with this person leading up to and on your wedding day. If they do not give you a quote or proposal that day, ask them how long it might take them to get it to you. For some vendors, there is a creative process that goes into each proposal. It may not happen overnight, but it also shouldn’t take weeks.

Design Phase

After the initial consultations, you should be able to narrow down your choices, select all of your vendors and sign contracts with them. Some may also require a deposit in order to set your date with them. This is when all the fun starts.

It’s all in the details. You get to talk about your vision and start working to bring that to reality. But remember, these things can take time. I know you want to think you are the only bride in the world, but you aren’t. Vendors get pulled in every direction (see the “Day to Day” section above) and they really just want to provide you with the best product possible. It can take time to do the research for portrait locations or design a stunning centerpiece idea.

I am not saying you should let the vendors walk all over you and put you off until the last minute. I am simply saying to be patient. You will get the very best of what they offer when they have time to create it. Work with them to set appropriate expectations and I can guarantee you will both be happy with the results.

Creating your day

This is where the magic happens. While you are being pampered and getting ready for your big day, we are running around to make sure every last detail is perfect. This is the part that we really love! A lot of people make your day happen – coordinators, florists, bakers, DJs, musicians, cooks, servers, photographers, dishwashers, bartenders, valet drivers, videographers, etc, etc, etc.

I think the most common misconception out there is that these people start working when the reception starts. Not true. We work for hours before your event and sometimes even days to make sure that your event is flawless. Not to mention the hours spent during the planning process. The end result and happiness on the happy couple’s face is what really make our jobs worth it. If we didn’t love it, we’d be crazy to do it.

 

So I know this was a long one, but I hope it was at least a little bit educational and helps you see what we really do for a living. I absolutely love what I do. Sometimes, I am tired. Sometimes, I wish the phone would stop ringing. Sometimes, I wish the phone would ring more. But ultimately, I love making people happy. And I get to do that every single day.

XOXO,

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